Dear friends I need your advise. You see below the photo of our beautiful grand daughter of the family. . . well it is hard to believe it but last weekend I gave her a bap on the head. I am so ashamed and embarassed about what I have done but when I look back I am thinking that I had no other choice. Ok let me fill you in.
The very first day I met the grand daughter we immediately loved each other bunches. But she is so young, only three, and doesn't understand that I don't always want to be picked up and held when she wants to see me. Last weekend she kept picking me up sometimes squeezing my tummy too much. I would run and find a hiding place but she is good at that game and found me without too much trouble.
Well, it happened on Saturday night. I had tried to hide, that didn't work. I then jumped on the mom's lap in hopes of protection which she did tell the grandchild that I didn't want to play right now. She still wanted to see me but I wasn't in the mood. Before I knew it there was a noise coming out of my voice box, I guess that meant I was saying no please. Then before I even knew what happened, it was like my paw and leg took over me and my paw was on her forehead giving her a gentle but firm bap. No claws were used in this manuver. I felt terrible about that because I could see that I startled the child. Oh my, I never met to to that. Then my mom, her grandmother, told her that I was really saying no and that was the only way I knew how to do that. They laughed about it and she didn't seem afraid of me, which I certainly I would never want to happen.
On Sunday things were running more smoothly between the two of us. You see the mom told the grand daughter the secret of playing with me. She told her that if she didn't chase me and try to pick me up all the time I would come and find her when I wanted company. Well as you can see by the sleeping me and the smiling little one that this worked perfectly. We now know how to see each other without upsetting one and other. We have a new understanding and we love each other bunches and bunches.
I still feel bad about the bap. Was the bap wrong? I am so sorry that I did that. Do I need anger management class? Any other suggestions will be greatly appreciated. Oh, and no blame on the sweet cute grand daughter she is not at fault here.
37 comments:
I think you're okay, Gracie. As long as it was a gentle firm bap and no claws were involved, then you were just starting her all-important training - beans have to be trained how to interact with us cats, you know. The younger they are, the easier it is to get them trained right. So put it behind you and don't worry!
Oh, and thanks for coming to my Gotcha Day party yesterday! :)
Purrs and hugs,
Roxy
Gracie, first of all we wanna say that the little grandbean is very cute! We think that you were okay giving her a whap as long as no claws were involved. Little beans just don't unnerstand that we don't wanna be picked up and bothered all the time so you gotta let them know how you feel. Like the Kitty Krew said, you gotta train them right. And it seems like your whap musta not have been too bad 'cuz it looks like she still loves you!
Gracie, these things sometimes happen between kitties and grandbeans. What do we know? When our niece bean comes around we all scurry for the nearest hidey hole, MOL!
Don't feel bad. We're sure the grandkid bean knew you didn't mean it.
We think you did very well under the circumstances. No claws, no teeth. And now the granddaughter knows your boundaries and you are better friends for it. We furries can teach beans so much!
Gracie, you did the RIGHT thing!! Little sticky things have to be trained early in life. The sticky is very lucky you didn't use claws or teeth, you were VERY provoked.
Love & purrs from Meepsie & Smokey
Gracie, you did just fine. Sometimes these human beans just don't understand that we want to be left alone.....especially the young ones. You kept your claws in and still let her know how you were feeling. We still have to do that to our Meowm and she is OOOOOLLLLDDDDD!
Gracie, you was purrfectly rite to whap her. She needed a lil trainin. Kidbeans is da most difficult type to train. An anyway, we watch NCIS an da bossman on dat show is always whappin his peeps on da head. It's good fur them!
Purrs,
Victor
PS just don't make it a habbit.
You did absolutely nothing wrong, Gracie. In fact, you were entirely within your rights to take the action you did! You tried to escape, gave a verbal warning and only took the paw action as a last means of protection. Keep in mind dear, humans are very hard to train, 'specially young ones.
oh Gracie, you was not wrong at all. See you bof learned a good sekrit and now you is bof really happy!
Nope, yoo did nothing wrong. In fact, a little bap wifout claws is a good way to teach dat very cute granddaughterbean what not to do. We and our cuzzin kitties and woofies all did da same thing wif ours.
Oh poor Gracie,
Do not feel bad. All pups, even human ones need a bop on the head sometimes. I think you are being very patient with her.
Slobbers,
Mango
Oh Gracie! Your bap was harmless! No claws and only once to warn the little girl (who is very beautiful by the way -- lovely blue eyes). You were just following your instinct -- you didn't plan it -- it just happened. Let it go, Gracie! You're a good kitty and you and the grandbean get along better now that she knows how to treat you.
Gracie
Youw little Gwangbaby fwiend is totally adowable and I know she didn't mean any hawm any mowe than you did. Youw Mom did the pawfect thing explaining to hew how to appwoach you and play wif you..I think you wewe wight in telling hew..the bop didn't huwt hew.thewe wewe no claws, and how else would she leawn . This way you can bof have a wondewful welationship and continoo to love each othew. You'we bof bootiful giwls..I guess it just wuns in the family
smoochie kisses
ASTA
Well we thinks the grandbaby bean was the tiniest bit at fault but only because she is young and didn't know better.
~Scylla, Charybdis & Fenris
Your baping her is the way you teach her boundaries. Sees I know all about this I has to bap my brother Fenris sometimes when he wants to get to close. I don't use my claws either, although I will if I have to but the pub seems to get the hint and I am sure your adorably grandbaby bean did too. ~Socks
Do not worry, Gracie! Since you did not use your clawrs, no harm done. And now you two have a mutual understanding and respect.
Its ok Gracie! No claws were used and it's your way of communicating! At least you two have come to an understanding. What a beautiful new relationship
Gracie, its your new pal Zeus. Me thinkz iz ok long as u dont use no claws. I bap my doggy brothers on the head all the time too coz me likes to play but them are scared i'd get hurt coz me is too little. Just let them love you, dats all.
Oh Gracie - you are totally fine - you were just gently setting bounderies! You should see what we need to do with some of meowmy's friends from time to time!Sometimes kids play too rough and they can hurt you.... a little bap goes a long way - no harm done!
By the way - thank you so much for stopping by our blog and for your kind words! we are always looking for new friends!
Hugs and headbutts!
Lucky, Bugsy and Hope ~
http://www.happycatfamily.net/blog.html
Well we think you did just fine. After all, that kid was warned! I bet she doesn't mess with you again! You know, for such a small kitten you sure are a spitfire! Hehehehehe! Just make sure not to bite. That will make your humans mad for sure.
Ollie
Dear Miss Gracie,
I should have to advise you next time to take the highroad. They are, after all, only humans.
Opus
Everybody else has put it better than I could. YOu did fine. Your "niece" is very cute and I can see you both enjoy each other the right way now. Continue to keep the claws and teeth to yourself and all will be well.
Just remember, Bap Happens, make sure claws are retracted when dealing with the mini-humans, or they might Bap Back. Not to worry, ya done fine!
I don't think that you need to go to anger management class. Mini-humans need to learn to be careful around kitties. Nanny is trying to teach doggies to leave me alone because I don't have patience with them. I love the picture of you and the mini-human...very cute!
Loki
HAHAHAHAHAHA honey - you did JUST fine!!! Those little humans need lots of whaps sometimes to understand things, they learn MUCH slower than we cats do! I am very impressed that you did that whap without claws!!! That shows a great deal of character and strength and discipline on your side, not every cat is capable of that! Next time the little human does not listen to your voice box just SO IT AGAIN! NO, Mrs. OZ NO claws!
(Don't listen to OZ if she comes over!)
Karl
Why Gracie, how could you say such a thing about yourself? We understand why you did what you did, and any other right-thinking cat or human would see it the same way.
No claws, no problem!
baps in the head are never wrong my friend. check out our blog tomorrow, we have something for you.
Don't feel bad ! you were right. Little humans need to be educated and have to learn that cats are not a toy, I am sure from now on your relationship will be better ! it already looks like when I see this cute picture of both of you !
Hi Gracie!
Thanks for the comment on our blog...
We have a 3 year old grandson child... and another one on the way in November!
Have lots of fun!
Definitely no claws. Little ones need to learn. They do get a little too enthusiatic sometimes. I am glad you are made up. You are both cuties and what a charming pic of you two together.
Hi Gracie,you sure are cute!!!
We do not think you did anything wrong.You did not use claws and your Mom explained to your sweet grandbean :)
We are happy you got to stay in your new home :)
That was quite a neat story about how you came to be there ! We miss Sassy too and hope someday you get to meet her. In the meantime,we are glad you are indoors. We live indoors and we don't mind it at all :)
We hope you will come to Mickey's & Miss Peach's wedding on Saturday!! It will be fun :)
Purrs Mickey,Georgia & Tillie
Oh Gracie, you did furry good on this. It was a polite bap and she learned from it. Heck, sometimes I still have to bap mum or if she is really bugging me, put the bitey on her.
Gracie, you handled it very well. Don't feel bad. you gently taught her a lesson and did not hurt her. You did it from the safety of your Mom's lap and in front of other people so they saw you were not being mean.,
Sometimes children (like kits) have to be reminded of their place. It sounds like you did not use claws and is a good thing.
We think you handles everything perfectly! Joel is my first "baby" experience, but mommy and daddy have neices and nephews and of course friends with pets and kids.
You did very well with just a warning bop. Your mommy and your grandbean's mommy also handled everything well. She is one cutie patootie. I can see why you love her so much!
dats waz a wittel bap n u didzit rite. cours u startld hur cuz hur iz big gurl in trainin sohz u iz goodz traner. Ize notz hafs ur payshunts. u dids furry mush bettur din me do.
mom sayz we is doin sum better. hur frind paid hur fur writin stuffoms finely soh weze kin gets our foods n littur n stuffs fur granmawmee... buts granmawmme n mom is still werkin on keepin hur howse n stuffoms.
luv,
Katie Kitty Too
Whaps are ok as long as the clawsies are tucked in all nice and tight. What a cute girl she is and it looks like you will always be friends.
Oh Gracie,
You're a cat. We're all cats. You did everything you could. You even kept the claws in. Now that cute little girl knows the rules of play and you can both move forward. Don't feel any worse than you already feel. You're cuteness buys you all kinds of forgiveness!
mew,
Katie
(Glogirly's cat)
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